Q: I’m looking for unique gift ideas for my stepmom. My stepmom’s birthday is coming up and I really want to find her something that is different from the usual and will be something she loves.
- Molly S.
A: What a lovely question. It’s evident you value your relationship with your stepmother and see gift-giving as a way to show her how much she means to you. She’s lucky to have you in her life!
I think most of us would agree (myself included) that finding unique gifts for loved ones - whether it’s for Mother’s Day, birthdays, or any other holiday - is often a challenge. For better or worse, online shopping in 2021 is like a never-ending magazine with limitless pages. Sometimes it feels like there's one big blur of gifts that all look the same. But with so many options also comes hidden treasures that the “bonus mom” in your life is sure to cherish.
My first recommendation is to treat your stepmom to something special and practical based on her passions. For example, if she loves to cook - a cookbook, kitchen utensils, or unique spices are presents that will show her that you notice her interests. Or if she loves decorating her home, then wall art with Biblical messages may be just the special piece she’s looking for!
I would also encourage you to take a brief inventory of her favorite things. It’s easy to get bombarded with candles and soaps - so much so that we lose sight of what *really* speaks to the person we have in mind. Is there a book she keeps mentioning she wants to read? A TV show she can’t stop talking about? Simply take note of those things - and that may lead you to really meaningful gifts.
Another way to treat your step mom to something that will make her feel special is with personalized gifts - like a custom family portrait, a personalized initial bracelet, or a donation to a charity in her name. These are all unique, thoughtful gifts that will stand out and make her think of you every time she sees it.
Last but not least, a thoughtfully-written card goes a long way! Pair it with any gift you choose and it’s sure to elevate your gift as the lovely gesture you want it to be.
Overall, I find that when I think of gift-giving as a way to show someone I’m listening and staying attuned to their needs, it shifts the process from overwhelming to enjoyable. Gifts are an opportunity to show someone your love - one thing we can all use more of in our lives.
I hope this advice helps and whatever gift you choose nourishes your connection with your stepmom this year - and beyond.